Embracing Loneliness: Navigating Loneliness with Grace

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Have YOU noticed any changes in your social interactions or mood recently? How does loneliness affect your mental health? What are some effective strategies for overcoming loneliness?

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I’m asking because, this is something I’ve experienced from time to time, its a meaningful subject to me. Living alone can have its rewards and downsides. The rewards being able to do what you wish when you wish with your time, like watching that show you like on the television. The house is just as you left it, I could go on. The downsides can be without regular face-to-face interaction, you may have fewer opportunities for emotional support and companionship, especially when it comes to sharing your problems and looking for another person to problem solve with you. Studies show that people who live by themselves might have a greater chance of experiencing mental health issues like feeling sad or worried. Overall, living alone comes with advantages like independence and privacy, but it’s crucial to acknowledge the potential drawbacks and take action to address them. This could involve reaching out to others, joining social activities, and seeking help from professionals if needed. It’s interesting to know in January 2022, approximately 8.2 million people were living alone in the UK, according to data from the Office for National Statistics (ONS).

So, what is loneliness?

Loneliness refers to the feeling of sadness or discomfort that arises when you feel isolated or disconnected from others. It can happen when there is a lack of social interaction, close relationships, or companionship. Feelings of loneliness can lead you to experience emptiness, isolation, and a longing for companionship or understanding. This can affect people of all ages and backgrounds and may be from various life circumstances, such as moving to a new location, experiencing loss, or encountering difficulties in creating social connections with others, or not finding the right partner. Although now a days it feels technology has made it easier to connect with others, we are in an ever-evolving world of shopping for a partner on dating apps if you’re single and seeking a soul mate. Dating apps can be tough, you could be abruptly cut off from all communication without any explanation and this can drive us further in to self-isolation, not to mention feelings of rejection and confusion. Searching for a soul mate can be tough in this world, and an entirely different subject for another time.

One of the best quotes I’ve heard: “The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.” – Diane Von Furstenberg

Some thought provoking questions you can ask yourself to re-organise your thoughts:  What are the benefits of spending time alone for me? How can I see being alone as a chance to learn more about myself and grow? What kind of steps do I need take to feel less isolated or lonely? 

Below are seven ways that may help you find some inner peace with spending time alone and create the connection you seek.

Stay connected: Keep talking to friends and family via the phone or online to stay connected. Plan in a time to reach out to loved ones or friends and try and make video calls where possible. This will allow you to see the facial expressions, body language, and gestures of the person you’re talking to, providing a more emotionally connected conversation. Please don’t make the mistake of assuming friends or loved ones are too busy or unavailable to talk.  In this current fast-paced world, there’s often a general assumption that everyone is occupied and has little time for conversation. You may not have a complete understanding of others’ schedules and commitments, leading you to default to the assumption that everyone is busy. If they care, they will be back in touch, TRUST me. Try not taking it personally if the person doesn’t respond right away. They might have other things going on or be dealing with their own concerns.

Be Kind to Yourself: Remember it’s okay to feel lonely sometimes and focus on self-care. Take it easy on yourself, especially when things get tough. Show yourself the same care and kindness you would give to a friend who needs support. Being kind to ourselves means we need to know and understand our feelings, be gentle with ourselves, and be ready to change any bad thoughts we have about ourselves. Move beyond past mistakes and practice forgiving yourself. Remember that everyone makes errors, and view them as opportunities to grow and learn. I still remember some valued advice given to me many years ago “The only way to success is through failure”. If you struggle with self-kindness and would like help moving forward, please don’t suffer in silence, your NOT alone.  Get in touch on the link below.

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Plan Regular Activities: Create weekly activities with friends like dinners or game nights. Start by identifying activities that you enjoy or would like to try. This could include hobbies, sports, social gatherings, or cultural events. Decide what you want to do and how often you want to do it. For example, you might want to go to walking every week, join a gym, or meet up with friends regularly. Use reminders or alarms to help you remember your planned activities and stay on track with your schedule.

Join Groups: Join clubs or classes that match your interests to meet new people. Being part of a group makes you feel like you belong and helps you connect with people who have similar interests, values, or goals. This can be joining the gym or a walking group, or yoga to name a few. Try and look for a mentor, A mentor can give helpful advice and share what they’ve learned from their own experiences. They can help you figure out how to manage problems, make choices, and reach your goals. I have a few, some of them I’ve never met, however follow them where possible on social media and read their biographies if they are authors.

Meet Neighbours: Get to know your neighbours by saying hello and striking up conversations when you see them. Having a good relationship with your neighbours makes you feel happier and more satisfied with where you live, making your neighbourhood experience better. I do regular walks with my neighbour, and I get so much satisfaction from opening about my thoughts and feelings. You never know it might become a regular activity for you like it is for me now, we call it walking therapy.

Connect with Nature: Spend time outdoors, take walks in parks, or explore nature trails to appreciate the beauty of the natural world and feel a stronger connection to your environment. In general, engaging with nature deeply influences the brain, encouraging relaxation, uplifting mood, boosting cognitive abilities, and nurturing both mental and physical well-being.

Embrace Alone Time: Learn to enjoy your own company and embrace solitude by engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfilment, such as reading, listening to music, or pursuing personal interests. The benefits of alone time can you lead you to thrive as detailed below:

Self-Reflecting: Spending time alone gives you a chance to think about yourself and understand your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs better.

Revitalization: Taking time for yourself helps you feel refreshed and re-energized, clearing your mind and boosting your energy.

Creativity: Being alone can inspire new ideas and original thinking, giving you the freedom to explore different perspectives and work on creative projects without interruptions.

Independence: Being by yourself encourages you to rely on yourself more and feel confident in your abilities, making you feel more independent and empowered.

Stress Relief: Alone time provides a peaceful environment for relaxation and stress reduction, helping you feel calmer and less anxious. Usually a great podcast, book or meditation can help and works for me.

Decision-Making: Solitude allows you to make decisions without outside influence, giving you the space to think about your options and trust your instincts.

You can get things done: Time alone helps you focus better and get things done more quickly, as there are fewer distractions to interrupt you. Cleaning is my thing and I do get this done early without the worry of waking someone.

Personal Growth: Being alone allows you to learn more about yourself and grow as a person through self-reflection and self-improvement.

Emotional Balance: Alone time helps you manage your emotions and deal with stress more effectively, promoting emotional resilience and well-being.

Enjoyment: Spending time alone can be enjoyable and fulfilling, giving you the chance to do things you love without worrying about what others think.

If you struggle with isolation or being alone, and you need to speak to someone. Remember you don’t have to suffer alone. I can offer you a safe, trusted environment for you to share your thoughts and troubles when feeling isolated and alone. Please explore my website for how it works on how I may help you. I offer clinical hypnotherapy and the application of neuro linguistic techniques to help you get back on track.

My next article on loneliness will be “In a relationship, and still alone.” Sometimes you feel alone even when together with a partner?

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